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Monthly Archives: July 2015

Choosing Happiness

27 Monday Jul 2015

Posted by Tracey Marie in Weekly Blog

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My regular readers will know that my Blog is about happiness and choosing to be happy.  It is a choice we are faced with daily and I’ve always believed that depending on what choice we make will depend on the kind of day we have.  It’s the attitude we choose to adopt.   I’m not going to write much this week because I think the following demonstrates this beautifully.

Last week the following poem written by a student called Chanie Gorkin (based in Brooklyn) went viral on Twitter.  Chanie wrote it for a school assignment which was how to manage a bad day.   It is very thought provoking.

The poem:

Today was the absolute worst day ever

And don’t try to convince me that

There’s something good in every day

Because, when you take a closer look,

This world is a pretty evil place.

Even if

Some goodness does shine through once in a while

Satisfaction and happiness don’t last.

And it’s not true that

It’s all in the mind and heart

Because

True happiness can be obtained

Only if one’s surroundings are good

It’s not true that good exists

I’m sure you can agree that

The reality

Creates

My attitude

It’s all beyond my control

And you’ll never in a million years hear me say that

Today was a good day

Now read from the bottom to top.

I think this poem is so powerful and really makes us think about our outlook to life.  I would love to hear your thoughts on the poem that went viral last week and how you choose to deal with a bad day.   Should Chanie Gorkin ever read my Blog many congratulations to you for such a beautifully thought out poem and I wish you much success with your future writing.   You are a true inspiration.

 

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The Gift of Encouragement

20 Monday Jul 2015

Posted by Tracey Marie in Weekly Blog

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What Gets you out of bed in the morning

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Following hot on the heels of last week’s Blog I have chosen to write about encouragement, for without it I think many of us would not achieve our goals or even dare to dream big. We all need some encouragement in our everyday lives.

Encouragement is a wonderful gift and, if we are lucky enough, something we will hopefully receive throughout our lives from friends and family.   From the time we take our first steps our parents or guardians are offering us encouraging words to reach their outstretched hands and when we do, we feel very pleased with ourselves usually to the accompaniment of much cheering, clapping and praise of how clever we are. Next time you are in the presence of a baby, just watch them when they are learning to take their first few steps and see how happy they are when they reach their destination.

If we are fortunate, our family and friends support and encourage us at different times throughout our lives. For example:

  • Encouragement to do something
  • Encouragement to finish something – go over the line, a child’s race at sports day
  • Encouragement that things will get better in our times of need
  • Encouragement to get better when we are sick

Encouragement can come in many forms such as listening to someone’s speech which might strike a chord and becomes the inspiration that spurs us into action.  For example, Michelle Obama frequently offers encouragement to young people to complete their education, to travel and to believe in themselves and that they really are good enough and can achieve their dreams.  Reading an autobiography of someone who may have struggled during their life but pulled out all the stops to go for what they believed in can also offer us encouragement.

Back in 2012, the UK celebrated its most successful Olympics here in London. When the competitors were interviewed later they all said it was the crowd cheering them on that really helped with their performance and to pull out all the stops.

As we can see from the above, encouragement is a wonderful way of offering positive support and is an extremely powerful tool in all aspects of our lives.

With encouragement comes enthusiasm and once we start to take small baby steps, we become enthusiastic about how many more steps we can take and aware of how far we can go and begin to feel excited. In turn, we begin to feel more energised. Have you ever found yourself in a situation when you have so much energy and enthusiasm that you want to finish something that you’ve started and you find yourself going to bed much later than usual or waking up earlier so you can continue or finish something? This is of course a sign that we are enjoying what are doing. So just by someone’s words of encouragement we not only find ourselves doing something we thought might not be possible but we find we have more life and energy and as a result are much happier.

Interestingly, the word encouragement goes straight to the heart.  The word itself comes from a combination of the prefix en which means “to put into” and the Latin root cor which means “heart”.

Whatever stage we are in our lives, young or old, we all need encouragement, so why not greet someone today with some words of encouragement no matter how small. You never know it might help someone achieve their dreams, make that change or just feel happier that someone noticed them and took the time.

I would love to hear from you when you received encouragement at a time when you felt like giving up or when you didn’t think you could do something and the difference the encouragement made to you. I know that I have achieved lots during my lifetime that I would never have dreamed of and it was all thanks to some very special peoples’ encouragement and belief in me, for example I am a qualified homeopath and have also achieved second degree Reiki and am able to practice.

Wishing all my lovely readers a wonderful week full of love and happiness.

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Lessons Learnt

13 Monday Jul 2015

Posted by Tracey Marie in Weekly Blog

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Let It Go, Words of Kindness

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Last week I found myself in a situation that I didn’t think could be possible in this day and age. I was on the receiving end of sheer rudeness, rudeness for a service I was paying for.

I guess over the last few decades with the introduction of health and safety, laws about what you can and can’t do or say, generally being wrapped up in cotton wool in a nanny state we’ve all had to watch how we say things and deliver our message. Even in the work place if conducting appraisals we are trained to give constructive criticism with plenty of encouragement and are told to also focus on the positive.

I’ve always secretly wondered if by not saying it as it is if we aren’t really receiving the big picture or even the truth. Anyone who knows me will know that I am straight talking and I like people to be the same with me, however, one thing I am not, and that is unkind or rude and I would never say anything that I think might hurt someone’s feelings.  Kindness costs nothing and I believe what goes around comes around – karma.

So what had me reeling last week? I found myself in a situation whereby after, when I had time to process what had been said, I might add for a service I was paying for, I felt that I had been verbally abused on a very unnecessary and personal level that was totally irrelevant. It wasn’t even criticism it was a barrage of comments that were not at all constructive to what I was doing or trying to achieve. The comments were personal and were aired in public in front of other people in what was supposed to be a learning environment.

As a result I had a confidence crisis in everything I did last week, but then I am not someone to just lie down and take anything like that so the stubborn side of my personality came through with my “I’ll show them attitude”. Now it could be that was exactly what the person was trying to achieve and was using reverse psychology and perhaps that was what was intended? The sad thing is I did not feel positive and I will never find out as I will not return and put myself in that situation again.

I believe that teaching techniques have changed since when i was at school and we have progressed in trying to get people to achieve their goals in a positive encouraging manner, with constructive criticism being used which consists of both negative and positive, there is certainly no need to tear someone apart or to get personal.

On reflection the comments I received were not just personal but they were very rude. However I didn’t want to dwell on the negativity, so I tried to let it go and that is why this week I have chosen to write about it, I might add one week later, which shows I haven’t quite yet let it go. So by sharing this experience with my readers I am now letting it go. I have chosen to ignore the way I was spoken to and have put it down to a bad experience but and this is where I have turned it around because I am sure I have learnt something from that day and although I’ve not yet realized what it is I am very sure I will look back on it and say yes it was upsetting at the time but I got something from it.

So the motto this week is to not focus on the negative and to try to find the good in all situations and to also be thoughtful in what we say and how we deliver our messages.

Also last week my Blog was one year old so I would  like to thank you for reading, commenting and following for the last year.   My Blog is being read all over the world from far flung places such as the Philippines, Brazil, Bhutan, Argentina and even Ecuador and I am truly grateful to you for reading and sharing.  It really does means a lot.

Wishing all my lovely readers a fantastic and happy week full of love and happiness.

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Magical Mondays

06 Monday Jul 2015

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So how did you start your day today?

Did it begin with throwing the covers over your head and saying “Noooo It’s Monday” or did you embrace the day like any other day?

I am always amazed at how many people I hear complaining that it’s Monday and they can’t wait until Friday, usually it is from people traveling on the train, people I meet in the lift, even FB posts that I read from certain friends and yes I’m sure you know who you are.

Let’s think about this and let me ask if you are one of the types of people that complain because it’s Monday? If so, does that mean you don’t enjoy the five days from Monday to Friday?   If however you are in the camp that treats Monday like any other day then I would imagine, like me, it doesn’t make a difference what day it is.

The key is to try and enjoy every day, no matter what day it is. Admittedly the days when we can do as we please are undoubtedly the best but I like to look at the days when my life is restricted as the days that allow or enable me to do all the things that I love to do and enjoy. For example, I have to go to work each Monday, it enables me to have the life I desire and to do the things I enjoy.

So when my alarm bell goes off at 6am on a Monday morning, whilst I might not like it, I thank my lucky stars that I actually have a job to go to. I then enter what I like to call the gratitude zone and believe me when we start to be grateful for all we have in our lives the world becomes a much happier and easier place to live in. I choose to be happy on a Monday, in fact I choose to be happy and to like every day of the week.

Monday’s are the beginning of a new week, fresh and shiny, I like to regard them as Magical Mondays. We can start a new week like we do a new year and set ourselves little goals or targets if we so desire. Also if you are lucky enough to have had a weekend off then the chances are you will be feeling refreshed from having had a weekend doing the things that you enjoy with friends and family.

Mondays are also magical because there is the anticipation of the week ahead and the next weekend when we get to do it all over again. I therefore like to treat my Mondays with love and respect.

Also a few weeks ago on my way to work and making my way across London Bridge, imagine my surprise when the pavement had been tiled with rainbow colours with the caption at the end of the rainbow “Love Mondays” which is the photo I have used for this week’s Blog.   Let Monday’s be your rainbow.   If you would like to know more about this project it is called Spark your City and more information can be found at http://www.sparkyourcity.com.  It certainly brightened up my commute.

I would love to hear from my lovely happy readers something that they enjoy or even look forward to on a Monday and I’m sure if you think hard enough you will discover there is quite a lot to love about Mondays.

Wishing all my readers a very Happy Magical Monday and a tremendous week full of opportunity and of course, love and happiness.

 

 

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