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So for the first time in my life I might finally understand the song “I don’t like Mondays” and some of my friends feelings of dread when Monday morning approaches. As the weekend reached it’s end for the first time in a very long time I started to experience these feelings.

As a writer of a Blog mostly about positivity I wondered what advice I could give myself to get out of this negative spiral I suddenly found myself in. Why was I feeling this way? How could I turn it around?

People always say to me “you’re so positive and happy” and yes that’s how I choose to be, I work at it because if we stop and think of all the things to be grateful for we are well and truly blessed.   It really is a lifestyle choice: Should I be Happy or Sad? No contest.  So, how do I deal with this feeling of dread for the Monday that is fast approaching.

Firstly, I like to understand things and just to have this feeling was not good enough for me and I had to ask myself some questions as to why I was feeling this way, what had changed in my life.   Well I have recently been on an amazing holiday but equally I always love to return and always show appreciation and gratitude to all that I have in my life. Wonderful family and friends and two gorgeous horses, and the cutest dog.  I LOVE life, I skip and dance my way through it, yes I really do. I have also been luckily enough to have had amazing holidays for the last ten years and so I wasn’t sure returning a few weeks ago was the problem. We all get holiday blues but there is always the next holiday to plan and look forward to, so no, I wasn’t convinced that was it.

If I’m honest, I knew what the problem was and that is I have a new boss. I have worked for the same company for the last 10 years and this is my third boss. The first one I had worked with previously and helped him set up the company, he was extremely aggressive, determined and successful. He then left and I stayed and worked for a new variety of a boss – a kind and gentle one. He has now retired and I have a new one. A boss that also started at the same company 10 years ago. Should be easy right?

I have worked for many people in my life, I somehow attract the difficult bosses, ones that people find a challenge and I can deal with them successfully. When I look back at my CV I have a list of difficult bosses. They say life is a mirror and what we put out there we attract. (I will write about this on a future Blog).

Now my dilemma is, for the last three years I have worked for the most wonderful, loveliest boss one could wish for – an absolute first for me. Luckily I started working for him at a time in my life when I needed peace, order and kindness, it was after the death of my mother. Sadly, he has now retired and I have a new boss.

Things have changed, my equilibrium has been disturbed. I am sure all will be okay because I can work for difficult people, however I think what is bothering me the most is I do not want to go back to becoming aggressive, defending myself in a blame culture and generally becoming unhappy.  Behaviour breeds behaviour.  I like the person I have become, I am a happy, fun, positive person and there is no way I want to go back to the person I was before and that is what is troubling me.

So, what to do? I have decided that I am not going to allow anyone to penetrate my happiness. If they are going through difficult times they can choose to share them with me and I will happily listen and support them but I am taking responsibility for my own feelings and I am choosing to be happy every time.

So, the fact remains how shall I face the new week?   I am choosing to sing with the birds on Monday mornings and treat it just like any other day, a day that I will enjoy and make the most of. I will try to turn around the situation but equally I will not become fixated on it.

I will be thankful that I have a job that pays me and lets me have a comfortable lifestyle with amazing holidays. I will be grateful for the wonderful work colleagues I have and that I can laugh with and we support each other.   Already I have turned my thoughts around am feeling so much better and hopefully I will not experience this feeling again next weekend and if I find my thoughts turning a little bit negative towards Monday morning.  I will play a song loud and dance and show my gratitude for everything I have.

I would be very interested to hear from any of my readers out there as to why they don’t like Mondays and how they deal with it and turn their feelings around. Who knows maybe you can help me.

Wishing you all a wonderful happy week full of love and extra happiness. My theme tune for this week is going to be “Walking on Sunshine” and no one is going to get in my way or rain on my parade.

Remember our happiness is a choice.

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