Last weekend I visited a very dear friend of mine in Belgium who at the weekend also introduced me to another friend. We all got on amazingly well, helped by the fact that we share a common interest – a love of horses and animals.
Returning on Eurostar, with plenty of time to reflect and give some thought to what I would write about in this week’s Blog, I decided to dedicate it to friends and how important they are to our happiness and well being.
Research shows that people with good friends are generally much happier, although some natural loners are happy to be without friends, most of us depend greatly on the company of our true friends.
With any relationship, friendships bring support and joy although they can at times be difficult, but that is what being good friends is all about.
As small children we have the capacity to make friends very easily, we have no prejudices, we see someone our size and engage in conversation, regardless of background, colour or religion. We only have to look at young children in a playground or on a beach to see this in action. I met one of my best friends at the age of 4 and I am pleased to say we are still very close and see each other regularly.
When we approach our teenage years, we become a little bit more self conscious and perhaps a little bit more choosy on who our friends will be, for example, do they like the same things we do, do they dress the same, do they belong in our social circle.
We then go out to work and are thrown together with people, who if it weren’t for work, we might not ordinarily have come into contact with. Again great friendships are forged in the workplace, which isn’t surprising as this is where we spend most of our working lives. I have met many of my close friends through work and have kept in touch with them even when we have both moved on.
Then of course there are the friends we meet through one’s hobbies, further education, through friends of friends and holidays. I have also made some very good friends whilst walking my dog and more recently even catching the train to work. Exes can also remain friends and I believe a few of mine are even followers of my Blog.
So what makes a friendship and good friend? For me, it’s sharing things, having something in common, laughing and sometimes even crying together, someone who is there in our times of need and vice versa. They do not judge and are good fun and company. Sometimes we don’t see a friend for a long time but when we get together again it’s like we only saw each other yesterday, to me that is a true friend. I can’t imagine life without my wonderful friends and I’m happy they are in my life.
Anais Nin put it beautifully when she said “Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
I would be really interested to know what a good friendship and friend is to you?
Good friends are like stars,
we don’t always see them but we know they are there.
Wishing all my wonderful readers and friends
a week filled with love and happiness.
claire gray said:
I can’t imagine my life without my friends… these are the people who know everything about me, and still love me. These are the people who I know I can ring at 4am and they will respond with compassion not anger. My friends are sometimes in front, sometimes behind, but mostly just by my side. No judgements, no prejudices… we’re just there for each other.
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Tracey Marie said:
That sums up exactly what our friends are to us. I couldn’t have put it any better Claire.
carole g said:
i love your post this week Tracey. i feel a friendship is something that is nurtured and takes time to grow – it’s a bit like a seed – it needs watering and TLC and away you go. a friendship is forever changing and evolving like any relationship i suppose – that’s what’s amazing about humankind – our ability to form friendships. a true friendship tho is someone who is with you all the way – during your and their good and bad times – also it has to be non judgemental too. big kiss xx
Tracey Marie said:
And I love your comment, that is a beautiful description of friends and friendships – absolutely beautiful. X
sonia deconinck said:
I love this post Tracey (of course !!!)… and I thank you a lot for these comments…
To me friendship is something quite funny.
Of course most of my friends share my love for nature and animals (I cannot be a friend to somebody who hates animals). But I also know people who love animals and horse riding and are not and never will be my friends. Why ? We have a lot in common. A lot to talk to. A lot to share. But we are not friends…
To me friendship is a mild and very strong kind of love. Mild because there is nothing sexual, and strong, because there is nothing sexual. Let’s say it’s a strange type of attraction because a certain type of relationship is possible. I can like or dislike somebody immediately (nothing to be proud of), sometimes even not knowing why. And then with the time, I know..
To me a very good friend is someboby that I always have known, even much before meeting the person. That’s at least the feeling I have.
Is friendship a karmic matter ? I wonder….
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